I’ve just got back from a little holiday….on my own. No of course I didn’t go completely on my own, what I mean is, I went away ‘sans child’ and I’ve got to say I loved it. I felt a lot of guilt, even from the second I shut the front door after telling her I was going to ‘work’. I wasn’t telling her that I was going on an aeroplane to lay on a sunny beach, she’d want to come too! But that makes me feel bad as well. My wonderful parents came to help me out delivering her to school and back every day, but even with my darling daughters favourite people in the house I felt a pang of guilt that I was not being responsible enough for her, that I’m not “allowed” time off. This is the hardest job in the world and you work it 24hrs a day 7 days a week please! I felt bad that I wasn’t there to make her dinners, to read her a story, to hold her hand as she fell asleep. She’s only just started at school, should i not miss the stories that she tells me in the playground of her mates and what they’ve been up to.
Does it make me a bad mother that I go on these trips or does the R&R actually make me a better mummy?
I really can’t believe what I’m about to tell you. We’ve just had a lovely holiday in Sardinia, went to the airport to check in for the return flight and walked away with our tickets. It was pure luck then I looked at the boarding passes to see if we had a window seat for my little one that wanted it so much, and that I clocked that three of us, two adults and a child had been completely split up. No I’m not talking one on either side of the aisle, we were sat 10 rows apart. My daughter is four years old for goodness sake, she can’t be expected to sit on her own, and I doubt she would anyway.
And what about the people she’d be sat with, I doubt if they would enjoy the flight either. I find it completely unacceptable and have since heard that it’s a moneymaking scheme by the airlines to make you pay to book your seat. If the adults are split up its no real bother but the airline would surely not take a four-year-old flying on their own, so how can this be seen as okay? I really can’t believe it. How can I be responsible for her if she’s not even within spitting distance of me. It’s not like they didn’t know her age, they saw her passport, they saw her asleep in the buggy, they even put a luggage tag on the pushchair. You can’t honestly begin to understand what that would do to a parent and what it did to me when I don’t like flying anyway. And what if some thing happened in midair? Would I have to rely on a complete stranger to take her to the toilet, to fire her iPad up to watch Zootropolis and to do colouring in with her?
As it was, I marched straight back to the desk and had stern words, making sure she was at least sat with me. It’s complete madness and I’m getting more cross as I write this. Come on airlines sort it out.